Maybe there is a difference in how Christian men and woman approach the dating scene. Or maybe there is just a difference in how GOOD people approach the dating scene. Theviewfromher expanded on a post at all kinds of time that frankly I could have let alone. Evidently she got to me because I couldn't help myself but post again today. Hehe.
I'm not sure about the rest of you guys, but when I'm on a weekend mission trip or doing service projects for the community, the last thing I want to be distracted with is some lady flirting me up. ;-) I'm there for the service, not to meet people. If you are working beside me at a function, I'd like to believe that's why you are there too. If I felt you weren't, I'd probably think you were a little sketchy.
Okay, so that probably wouldn't happen regardless. Let's be honest, I haven't been flirted up in like...well weeks, at least. But the point still stands. The sum total of our advice for becoming active and social cannot be service projects and weekend missions, can it? Oh, and batting cages. Can't forget that totally stereotypical proposal now can we.
Why is it that our choices are either Church Stuff, or Gross Bar Stuff? I meet ladies all the time at Church Stuff, but invariably they can't keep up or even hold a conversation. And I meet ladies all the time at non-Church Stuff and I almost always enjoy the conversations more with them. I join my friends in Gross Bar Stuff on occassion and while I do meet people they are invariably not what I am looking for and this is expected. So as you can imagine, if I were truly looking for a companion and not just being social I would find myself in that middle category that was sorely neglected in both of these posts.
Sure coffee shops are one way to go, but I find it very limiting. Concerts, art shows, frisbee on the beach, house parties, fundraisers, bookstores, amusement parks, minature golf, bowling alleys, food courts, these are all places I've meet people. Some are activity based, I'll concede, but some are very passive also. I think the key is that these places give you something more than location to start the conversation with. Consider something simple like the difference between watching how someone eats in a foodcourt and watching them drink coffee while reading. Listening to a lecture or standing in line to ride the ferris wheel is bound to stimulate much more of a conversation than a poppyseed muffin and some Chai tea.